Spiritual Bypass – Are you doing this?

Ok, to start, what is spiritual bypass? We can’t know if we’re doing or not doing something if we don’t know what it is! Before I put my spin on it, here’s what Wiki told me.. “A spiritual bypass or spiritual bypassing is a “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks”. The term was introduced in the early 1980s by John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist” Thank you, Wiki. Amd John Welwood. How does spiritual bypass present itself in my world as an Intuitive Coach? Mostly through the ego. Do you know someone who thinks they have it all handled and that they’re “above” this stuff? That emotions are for wimps? That you just need to snap out of it and suck it up? I had a client work with me once to essentially prove to herself that I was wrong and her way of seeing the world was right; i.e. that the rational mind trumps the intuition. It sure can – if you are choosing to live that way. I tried it myself, for about 35 years. I didn’t like it personally. It always …

That B*tch: Accountability

Is accountability a b*tch for you? Why does accountability seem so hard? A friend explained it to me very simply once. Above the line behaviours are: accountability, responsibility and ownership and below the line behaviours are blame, excuses and denial. Why then, does it seem so hard to be above the line? Why does accountability scare us so much? 1. There is no-one left to blame. When we take full accountability for our lives we have to let go of the victim-energy of blaming others. This can be hard work if it’s been your way of operating in the world. Judging others and placing expectations upon them while we are not prepared to do anything ourselves gives our own inner critic prime seating in our life. It takes courage to rip the chair out from underneath your own inner critic and say that you’re done with that. It’s not always going to happen instantly. It takes time to notice when that critic comes creeping back in, to change that behaviour and choose better. Yip, it takes time to learn how to stop b*tching about other people. I’ve been that person. The one who had an ego feast and enjoyed attacking …