Dealing with imposter/fraud syndrome.

I had lunch with a friend today who is also an entrepreneur. It’s so valuable to me to connect with liked minded people who are also facing the same challenges on how to navigate through their business and their life.  I shared with him that I had watched a video recently of someone on Facebook who was exploring some quite deep emotional work with her tribe. She got asked a question she couldn’t answer. It was very clear she was out of her depth.  It was a curious observation for me. I know what it’s like to feel out of your depth. Haven’t we all? We can place so much pressure on ourselves to know all the answers and come up with the solutions, especially when we are wanting to help people.  However, if we are not careful this dynamic can slide us straight into imposter syndrome, also known as feeling like a fraud. Who are we to show up and give people our advice? It can naw at our deepest feelings of inadequacy.  This is where we need to be discerning and to be fair, we can only do the best we can in any given moment. However, I …

Can you be an introvert and be BOLD in business at the same time?

Yes.  That’s the short answer.  So, how does this work?  As an introvert I know what it is to feel that the sofa at home is the safest place in the world. How then, do we go about creating wonder in our lives and in the world? One thing is for sure, it’s not going to happen if we stay on the couch. We have to get ourselves out there and share our magic with others. We need to be courageous and bold enough to say to ourselves that our magic is unique, that it’s enough and that by sharing it will make other people’s lives better.  How do we actually do this though? Here are some guiding principles for my other introverted friends who are in business for themselves.  You gotta believe in something bigger than yourself. There is NO way I could have created my business if it was just down to ME. Yes, we all need those people who can coach us, support us, encourage us and even laugh at us (which, with wisdom, you can turn into motivation) to help move us along our path. However, that doesn’t always help you get out of bed in …

Practicing Gratitude…when you don’t feel grateful.

As an Intuitive Coach it’s my job to bring the light, the love and the inspiration. I help people to raise their vibration and to live an inspired life, one filled with pleasure, freedom and abundance.  One of the fastest ways to do this, we are taught, is through practising gratitude.  BUT what happens when you DON’T FEEL grateful? When you’ve experienced a  whole bunch of shitty situations? Perhaps it’s been a heartbreak or some thing devastating? The loss of a loved one or child? It maybe just the day to day stuff.  The cat is sick and the washing machine has broken down and Tommy is grizzly and your boss is on your arse about a deadline? Where is there even TIME to practise gratitude?  It’s enough to want make you want to shove that gratitude somewhere the sun don’t shine.  So, what to do?  Gratitude was the first thing that came into my awareness as I started to go deep into my personal development journey. Back in the day, MindValley or Finer Minds as it was known in the early days, created something called a Gratitude Journal. The idea was that every day you would log into a …

Making Sex Sacred

To take sex from ordinary to supersonic we must allow for the Divine into our sex lives. My understanding of sex is that it is an exchange of energy, a communication between me, my partner and the Divine. In it’s perfect completion it results in the miracle of new life so sex in itself is an act of creation. So the question is, what are you creating? Or if sex is a form of communication – what are you saying? Everything is energy so to transform sex into the supersonic and something beyond ourselves then you must invite spirit to be with you when you are in the act of creation, make it a conscious part of your love making. So how do you create more joy, intimacy, and harmony in your sex life? 1) I can’t stress this tip enough – get clear. Let go of any shame, guilt or lower vibrations from your sexual self. Anywhere there are limiting beliefs or conflicts, connect to source energy and ask for them to be cleared from your field. Set the intention that you are now brand new and clear, allow source energy to move through your body and take all …

Saying YES! to Abundance

Are you turned on when it comes to money? I recently asked this in a FB post – “Do you love money?” Most people said yes. A few said no. However, the curious thing was that even though most people said yes, are they acting and behaving in a way that demonstrates that they truly love money? Intuitively, the answer is no. When you love money you don’t come to that relationship with FEAR. When you’re in relationship with a person and they are running the energy of fear it feels kind of icky, right? They’re not in their power and it makes you feel awkward too. It’s the same with MONEY. Do you know what it means to consciously create a CARE-FUL relationship with money where you are bringing care, love and attention to how money FEELS? After working in a bank for 13 years I learned a lot about how wealthy people acted when it came to their relationship with money. They trusted it and they trusted themselves to be able to create it. They took action to have it come into their lives. It never fails to amaze me how people can get caught up in wanting …

Spiritual Bypass – Are you doing this?

Ok, to start, what is spiritual bypass? We can’t know if we’re doing or not doing something if we don’t know what it is! Before I put my spin on it, here’s what Wiki told me.. “A spiritual bypass or spiritual bypassing is a “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks”. The term was introduced in the early 1980s by John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist” Thank you, Wiki. Amd John Welwood. How does spiritual bypass present itself in my world as an Intuitive Coach? Mostly through the ego. Do you know someone who thinks they have it all handled and that they’re “above” this stuff? That emotions are for wimps? That you just need to snap out of it and suck it up? I had a client work with me once to essentially prove to herself that I was wrong and her way of seeing the world was right; i.e. that the rational mind trumps the intuition. It sure can – if you are choosing to live that way. I tried it myself, for about 35 years. I didn’t like it personally. It always …

My Cacao Ceremony Experience

On Thursday night I had my first ever Cacao Ceremony at the Yoga Barn in Bali. I was invited by the Hannah who I met here in Bali as we have the same coach and are here to do a 2-day retreat with our coach next week. Described as food of the gods and a historically revered plant food I was intrigued so it was a no-brainer for me to say YES! It was run by Levi Banner who has trained with a cacao shaman in Peru. He combines the use of ceremony with ceremonial grade cacao to create an experience described as offering “unique heart explosions”. So, it’s a beautiful evening in Ubud, Bali and we come into the ceremony space in the centre of which is a fire. The bowls of cacao are lined up around it. We sit down on the cushions laid around in a circle and Levi starts speaking to us. To put this in context I had had a ROUGH day. I’d received an email where I’d been slammed – about what I offer in my business and that essentially it doesn’t have any value. (That’s the edited story) The hardcore truth is – …

Why intuition isn’t special.

A lot of people think that intuition is woo-woo, reserved for hippies, moonchildren and people called Rainbow. Well, intuition is not special. It’s about the same amount of special as BREATHING. It just is. However, when you think about it breathing is pretty special as it gives you more life – as does your intuition. The thing about intuition though, is that it’s a choice. You can choose to activate it, work with and become really good at it. That is if you are interested in fabulous things like flow, synchronicities and manifesting effortlessly. Sounds too good to be true? Well, of course, if you don’t even believe you have intuition then you’re essentially cutting yourself from all good things. I don’t know about you but I love gifts and when you have gifts of spirit available to you, I’m choosing to be right up there at the front of the line. So if you bump into someone and they tell you they’re psychic and you’re like “Oh, that’s so not me” try this on for size. Yes, you are. You just haven’t developed that skill set yet. Often this comes back to what we are curious about. If you …

That B*tch: Accountability

Is accountability a b*tch for you? Why does accountability seem so hard? A friend explained it to me very simply once. Above the line behaviours are: accountability, responsibility and ownership and below the line behaviours are blame, excuses and denial. Why then, does it seem so hard to be above the line? Why does accountability scare us so much? 1. There is no-one left to blame. When we take full accountability for our lives we have to let go of the victim-energy of blaming others. This can be hard work if it’s been your way of operating in the world. Judging others and placing expectations upon them while we are not prepared to do anything ourselves gives our own inner critic prime seating in our life. It takes courage to rip the chair out from underneath your own inner critic and say that you’re done with that. It’s not always going to happen instantly. It takes time to notice when that critic comes creeping back in, to change that behaviour and choose better. Yip, it takes time to learn how to stop b*tching about other people. I’ve been that person. The one who had an ego feast and enjoyed attacking …

The Witch Wound

My birthday is on the 31st of October. Yes, that’s right, I was born on Halloween. Bad Jelly the Witch was my favorite when I was a kid. I listened to the record over and over and over and can still recite whole passages from it. Now at this point in my life, I have often viewed my birthday as a cosmic joke. A pointer from the Universe in fact. Even a signpost that I was a witch in a past life. (If you find yourself eye-rolling at a mention of past lives, guess what? I never used to believe in them either.) Now I know it to be true, as I’ve been facing a very prevalent issue that shows up for lightworkers, healers and those stepping into their power in the intuitive arts and it’s known as the Witch Wound. What is this Witch Wound? For me to explain it clearly, please allow yourself to suspend any disbelief in past lives and humor me for a moment. Cellular memory crosses lifetimes. That is, your body has a MEMORY of what has happened to you in other lifetimes. If you were a witch or branded as a witch in past …