Spiritual Bypass – Are you doing this?

Ok, to start, what is spiritual bypass? We can’t know if we’re doing or not doing something if we don’t know what it is! Before I put my spin on it, here’s what Wiki told me.. “A spiritual bypass or spiritual bypassing is a “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks”. The term was introduced in the early 1980s by John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist” Thank you, Wiki. Amd John Welwood. How does spiritual bypass present itself in my world as an Intuitive Coach? Mostly through the ego. Do you know someone who thinks they have it all handled and that they’re “above” this stuff? That emotions are for wimps? That you just need to snap out of it and suck it up? I had a client work with me once to essentially prove to herself that I was wrong and her way of seeing the world was right; i.e. that the rational mind trumps the intuition. It sure can – if you are choosing to live that way. I tried it myself, for about 35 years. I didn’t like it personally. It always …

My Cacao Ceremony Experience

On Thursday night I had my first ever Cacao Ceremony at the Yoga Barn in Bali. I was invited by the Hannah who I met here in Bali as we have the same coach and are here to do a 2-day retreat with our coach next week. Described as food of the gods and a historically revered plant food I was intrigued so it was a no-brainer for me to say YES! It was run by Levi Banner who has trained with a cacao shaman in Peru. He combines the use of ceremony with ceremonial grade cacao to create an experience described as offering “unique heart explosions”. So, it’s a beautiful evening in Ubud, Bali and we come into the ceremony space in the centre of which is a fire. The bowls of cacao are lined up around it. We sit down on the cushions laid around in a circle and Levi starts speaking to us. To put this in context I had had a ROUGH day. I’d received an email where I’d been slammed – about what I offer in my business and that essentially it doesn’t have any value. (That’s the edited story) The hardcore truth is – …

Why intuition isn’t special.

A lot of people think that intuition is woo-woo, reserved for hippies, moonchildren and people called Rainbow. Well, intuition is not special. It’s about the same amount of special as BREATHING. It just is. However, when you think about it breathing is pretty special as it gives you more life – as does your intuition. The thing about intuition though, is that it’s a choice. You can choose to activate it, work with and become really good at it. That is if you are interested in fabulous things like flow, synchronicities and manifesting effortlessly. Sounds too good to be true? Well, of course, if you don’t even believe you have intuition then you’re essentially cutting yourself from all good things. I don’t know about you but I love gifts and when you have gifts of spirit available to you, I’m choosing to be right up there at the front of the line. So if you bump into someone and they tell you they’re psychic and you’re like “Oh, that’s so not me” try this on for size. Yes, you are. You just haven’t developed that skill set yet. Often this comes back to what we are curious about. If you …

That B*tch: Accountability

Is accountability a b*tch for you? Why does accountability seem so hard? A friend explained it to me very simply once. Above the line behaviours are: accountability, responsibility and ownership and below the line behaviours are blame, excuses and denial. Why then, does it seem so hard to be above the line? Why does accountability scare us so much? 1. There is no-one left to blame. When we take full accountability for our lives we have to let go of the victim-energy of blaming others. This can be hard work if it’s been your way of operating in the world. Judging others and placing expectations upon them while we are not prepared to do anything ourselves gives our own inner critic prime seating in our life. It takes courage to rip the chair out from underneath your own inner critic and say that you’re done with that. It’s not always going to happen instantly. It takes time to notice when that critic comes creeping back in, to change that behaviour and choose better. Yip, it takes time to learn how to stop b*tching about other people. I’ve been that person. The one who had an ego feast and enjoyed attacking …

The Witch Wound

My birthday is on the 31st of October. Yes, that’s right, I was born on Halloween. Bad Jelly the Witch was my favourite when I was a kid. I listened to the record over and over and over and can still recite whole passages from it. Now at this point in my life, I have often viewed my birthday as a cosmic joke. A pointer from the Universe in fact. Even a signpost that I was a witch in a past life. (If you find yourself eye-rolling at a mention of past lives, guess what? I never used to believe in them either.) Now I know it to be true, as I’ve been facing a very prevalent issue that shows up for lightworkers, healers and those stepping into their power in the intuitive arts and it’s known as the Witch Wound. What is this Witch Wound? For me to explain it clearly, please allow yourself to suspend any disbelief in past lives and humour me for a moment. Cellular memory crosses lifetimes. That is, your body has a MEMORY of what has happened to you in other lifetimes. If you were a witch or branded as a witch in past …

What is your intuition telling you about MONEY?

In my old life, I worked in a bank for 13 years. For 5 of those years, I worked in the prestigious Private Bank area of the bank, for customers with a high net worth. It was fascinating to see the difference in how wealthy people treated their money. They were on much better terms with it emotionally. They saw it as a partner and a tool to create with. They appreciated what they could do with it so they took calculated risks. They had what I would call money intelligence, which is a phrase for being FAMILIAR with money. In my other roles in the bank, I saw a lot of FEAR and SEPARATION around money. People were petrified of being denied and afraid of being judged when it came to their money. I’ll never forget how soul-crushing it felt to turn people down for a loan, especially if it was for a house. The smell of dreams turning to toast is something I’ll never forget. In the metaphysical world, money takes on a whole new dimension. Here are a few things I’ve learnt along the way. 1. People don’t love talking about money. It’s often seen as taboo …

Releasing the wounds of our parents.

Growing up is hard to do. There can be many wounds we receive from our parents. Our own and sometimes theirs too. Being an adult means moving into accountability and part of that process is realising that our parents were doing the best they could with the skills they had at the time. Yes, sadly, this involves even when they were not able to meet our emotional needs or, when the patterns they knew and had learnt, were in fact, abusive. However, although it can be challenging, taking accountability and full ownership of our lives is incredibly rewarding and will lead to great personal gains. When we realise that it’s redundant to blame our parents for the way they behaved we can gain more freedom to live a life of our choosing. We realise that we have the power within us to heal and release anywhere we are carrying energy, wounds or pain for them. That can be incredibly liberating and in turn, can sometimes create a closer and more compassionate relationship with the people who brought us into the world. Clear energy in your relationship with your father this weekend at Heal The Father Wound. See more details here.  …

Creating certainty when it comes to manifesting.

When it comes to manifesting we would all love the magic bullet and to be able to go from zero to hero in a very short period of time. The truth is when it comes to manifesting what we want, it takes effort to do the following: To do an inventory of your own energetic field. This involves monitoring your thoughts, words and energy of yourself and others around you and take actions to keep it in a high and expanded vibration. To retrain yourself to always look for the positive, even when times are tough. Why? It comes back to your vibration. If you’re in grief or lower energies then it can zap your ability to attract what you want. This isn’t to say that your feelings are the enemy. They are actually your closest allies and friends as they show you where you are out of alignment. Don’t get me wrong, if you experience grief or a massive loss it’s not about putting on a brave face and pretending everything is ok. That doesn’t work anyway because energy doesn’t lie. It’s about learning how to FEEL your feelings and process them instead of stopping or blocking them which …

How to use your intuition in 2018

First published in Soulfilled.com   Now more than ever we are increasingly aware of the need and desire to live in light frequencies. What is a light frequency? Joy, Happiness, Bliss! If you are not currently experiencing these energies then it’s a process of awareness to start learning what is required to shift into these paradigms. You know on a soul level that this is possible as there is always a part of you that is nudging you, prodding you and calling to you to experience MORE. More freedom, pleasure and abundance! So how do we do this in a practical way? These 4 steps will help shift you into a space where it’s easier to access your intuitive guidance into 2018 and beyond. 1. Be as a child. Have you ever noticed that a child can cry one minute and then laugh the next? Children are so present that they don’t slip into the mindset of “this feeling is right/good” or “this feeling is wrong/bad”. That is, they don’t judge themselves; they just feel the feeling and let it move through them. Can you say the same? Do you love your anger, rage, jealousy as much as your happiness, …

Living Intuitively in a Rational World

In life, we see the focus on the rational mind consistently. In the modern world, the mind and intellect have been given the highest priority and in the process, we have lost our connection with so many things like the natural world and our ancient wisdom. It’s sad to see people being disconnected now more than ever from the world around them. We are living in the past or the future, not the NOW. Now is where life IS. Where there is space to connect to our infinite self and tune to the ancient wisdom that has been with us all along. How do we create this space for ourselves in a world full of noise and distraction?